EFFECTS OF RIGHT RESTRAINT: full moon - Sunday 7th September 2025
It is good to restrain the eye. It is good to restrain the ear. It is good to restrain the nose. It is good to restrain the tongue.
DHAMMAPADA v. 360
There is so much happening in our world about which we can easly feel angry. If we try hard to not feel angry because the Buddha taught restraint is good, it is likely that anger won’t disappear; it will hide away in unawareness and resurface at another time. The Buddha did indeed teach that restraint is good. He also taught that mindfulness is good. If our efforts to be mindful are merely a mental exercise and are not including the fire we feel in our hearts when we are enraged, we may well fail. Mindfulness practice means we aim to feel the anger without becoming lost in it. Similarly with fear. Can we feel fear without becoming lost in fear. The cultivation of restraint is not the same as repression.
INTENTIONAL COMPOSURE: full moon – Tuesday, September 17th, 2024
“Those who are energetically committed to practising dhamma, who are pure and considerate in effort, composed and virtuous in conduct, steadily increase in radiance.”
DHAMMAPADA v. 24
We all know it takes effort to maintain a practice committed to integrity, compassion and wisdom. How do we make the right kind of effort in this not-always-easy practice? One specific virtue often mentioned by the Buddha is ‘intentional composure’. In the Pali language this is indriya samvara, usually translated as sense restraint. It is a kind of spiritual muscle that once developed means there is the capacity to contain the intensity of our reactions to life’s challenges. If this muscle remains undeveloped, the only options we have when we encounter intensity, are either acting outwardly, projecting our wild reactivity onto the world, or inwardly, by way of denial – both having painful consequences. With the spiritual competence that is intentional composure, there is another option – that of skilfully containing the energetic reactions. This kind of effort helps sustain us at the same time as contributing to clarity of contemplation.
Q: How To Practice With A Conceited Sense Of Superiority?
(approx. 12 minutes) KEYWORDS: "How to properly understand the Buddha's teachings on not being better, equal or worse than others? I’m especially interested in how to deal with the feelings of being superior to those who do not search for anything deeper in life, who merely pursue immediate gratification of casual desires.” Ajahn Chah, Abhidhamma, Thai expression, ditthi mana, perceptions, up to scratch, balanced sensitivity, afraid of fear, hating aversion, spiritual toolkit, integrity, embodied mindfulness, intentional composure (indriyasamvara), wise reflection, compassion, challenging, enquiry, daring, judging, fear, overwhelmed, anger, indulging, denying, in-breath, expanding, temporary happiness, wellness retreat, selfless happiness, pressure.
Q: What Precautions To take To Protect The Opening Heart?
(approx. 12 minutes) KEYWORDS: "Are there any precautions of safeguards I should be taking as I sense the tenderness of my heart opening?" Becoming overly sensitive, parenting, karaniya metta sutta, normality, native sensitivity, naively vulnerable, hurt, the Buddha had pain, Vulture’s Peak, unawareness, 4 Noble Truths, falling in love, the capacity for being loving, discipline, righteous indignation, 2 extremes, Dhammacakkha sutta, middle way, embodied mindfulness, intentional composure, indriya samvara, projection, retreat, Bhajans, hymns, Jesus, Krishna, Kwan Yin, surfing, hang-gliding, wilderness, worshipping, idolizing, fundamentalism, sad, rational faculties, tension, rightly aligned, head, heart, belly, 25 questions.